Today is the nine-year anniversary of the death of Sgt. Jeffry Kowalski of St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department, EOW 10/01/08. His daughter, Madison, shares her father’s legacy and how she finds strength after the unimaginable.
“It’s going on 10 years now. A decade. Think of all the milestones and memories you gather during 10 years. You graduate high school, then college, start your adult job, have your own place, meet the man you love and start your life. 10 years of moments filled without the person you love most and who created you– the person who made the absolute best of you, the one who never doubted if you had fallen but instead gave you the strength to get back up, the person you loved more than yourself. My father, Sgt. Jeffry Kowalski (SLMPD) died almost 10 years ago, but it still feels like he was here yesterday.
I think the biggest reason this void in my life hasn’t been as difficult as others is solely because of the support given through The BackStoppers. They have given me the unwavering support and love I know my father would have given. They displayed loyalty and faith in not only our family but the future success that they knew we could achieve. The BackStoppers supported us and opened their arms before anyone else with no questions asked.
They knew my father’s case was special but realized he died over and over again for the people of Saint Louis when he could have easily walked away. Much like The BackStoppers, my father continued to do what was right with just knowing that the greater good was at stake. The BackStoppers gave us hope for the future and humanity through their numerous acts of kindness. Due to this, I often find myself overwhelmed with gratitude and the sense of wanting to give back to each and every person who donated to this elite organization. Each one of you is the reason I am still standing today, and I can’t thank you enough for supporting not just my family but every surviving family that The BackStoppers supports. Thank you, a million times, over. -With the most humility -Madison A Kowalski”
The BackStoppers currently assists 82 families with 66 dependent children and has supported 161 families since 1959. Our assistance is immediate and ongoing. The BackStoppers’ mission is to financially assist the families of first responders who die in the line of duty by paying off all debt, assuming financial obligations such as mortgage payments, taxes, providing health and dental insurance, and helping with the costs of elementary, secondary, and college/vocational education. Memberships fund our ongoing assistance and provide you with an easy way to support and grow The BackStoppers. To learn more about becoming a BackStopper please visit http://BackStoppers.org/membership/Read More
Elizabeth Snyder and her family are starting a new chapter of life accompanied with challenges and change. Courageously she remains to shine a light and honor her husband, Officer Blake Snyder of the St. Louis County Police Department, EOW 10/06/2016. Months have passed since Blake Snyder was killed in the line of duty, but Elizabeth and her son Malachi strive to be a voice in the community, and hope for a brighter future.
Being a mother of a young son, Elizabeth beams at her son’s growth, and shares how Malachi remembers his father, “He’s a very happy little boy and seems to mature more each day. He misses his daddy, though. We talk about Blake often and I am constantly reminding him of who his father was and what he has done for all of us. Malachi definitely remembers him but knows something ‘not right’ has happened”. Along with parenting, Elizabeth has moved to a new home with Malachi, and has also gained a new family member, Hank.
“Hank, the new puppy, is awesome,” Elizabeth gushes. “He’s a wonderful puppy and oh so good with Chi. He loves him and is constantly playing him with. He’s growing so fast, and has almost tripled in size since coming home with us”. Relocating to a new place, Elizabeth explains how the transition has helped her family, “We love our new home! We are very pleased and ever grateful for the relocation and the house. Living near my brother and Malachi’s cousins has been very good for the both of us. It has been so important for us to be near family in the last seven months”.
Many experiences and opportunities have presented themselves to Elizabeth. Perhaps one of the greatest experiences was a visit to Washington D.C. in February to hear the President speak. Elizabeth was accompanied by her brother, Officer Justin Sparks with the St. Louis County Police Department. “Our trip to Washington D.C. was, in a word, surreal. It was something out of the movies. We were honored and excited to be guests of Rodney Davis and Ann Wagner. While there, we were able to visit the White House as well as meet Vice President Pence. He was a very genuine and heartwarming man. I could tell that he truly cared about what happened to Blake and seems to want to make a true difference in our nation. I was in awe watching President Trump give his address. I felt humbled to be in a place where so much history was contained. President Trump’s speech was thrilling and offered a gesture of hope for our first responders. I am truly grateful to have had such an experience”.
Making a change and shining a light on law enforcement has been in sight for Elizabeth, and she is determined to continue to have her voice and story heard. “I will continue to advocate for law enforcement and for all of our first responders, in any way that I can. I will use what resources I have to help those who do not have a voice”. When asked about any future endeavors Elizabeth continues, “I also plan to write a book detailing my journey. I hope that what I write can be a beacon to others in my own or a similar situation, while also shedding light on the plights that our officers face each day”.
Through the pain and trials of this new life, Elizabeth professes to always have hope and faith. “There is always hope. There is always another day, and there is always someone out there who cares. Whether you are going through depression, a divorce, financial issues, or even a death – there is ALWAYS hope. I’ve lost my best friend, my husband. I’ve been persecuted, called names and have been told what to do. But I have held onto my faith, my God, our son, and my family. They are my hope”.
The community has embraced Elizabeth and her family in an incredible way by showing support and love. The overwhelming response has left the Snyders in a state of gratitude. “To our community – thank you. Our world was tossed upside down in an instant, and our community was there every step of the way. We are so thankful to have such amazing citizens supporting us and supporting our law enforcement. I will forever love my St. Louis community. Thank you, thank you, thank you!”
The BackStoppers helps many families who like, Elizabeth and Malachi, have been affected by tragedy. By providing a way to a new beginning, and remembering the ultimate sacrifice of the hero that they have lost. Speaking of The BackStoppers, Elizabeth says, “BackStoppers is an absolutely amazing organization. They are truly guardian angels. What they do for families of the fallen is beyond wonderful and I hope the community knows that. Each individual from The BackStoppers has a heart of gold, and we couldn’t be more thankful for them”.Read More
Jeremy Branson, the son of fallen hero, Officer James Branson, Jr., EOW 3/9/03, is about to start his senior year at Saint Louis University. Jeremy is majoring in Psychology with a minor in African Studies and pre-law. Upon graduation, he plans to attend the Howard University School of Law. Jeremy recently went on an eye-opening tour over spring break. When we picture a college spring break, most of us think of a non-stop party. Jeremy and some fellow students spent their break in a much different manner.
Every year since 2015, students at Saint Louis University are invited to embark upon an incredible journey. Over spring break, students travel to various landmarks that were instrumental in the modern civil rights movement. The group visited 14 of these historic locations, including the National Civil Rights Museum, the Rosa Parks Museum, the Southern Poverty Law Center, and the Slavery Museum.
When asked to describe the trip, Jeremy said, “The experience was a great opportunity for me to learn, grow, and understand the history that shaped the lives of African Americans today. From the moment I left the campus of Saint Louis University, I was filled with joy and aspiration. The trip attendees were very diverse, so I got a chance to see how my history is appreciated from those who do not look like me.”
Speaking about the most memorable part of the tour, Jeremy says, “The trip was full of surprises, and in Selma was probably where I had the most fun, where we did a slave simulation taking us from the coast of Africa down the middle passage to the West Indies and Virginia. The students had no idea that this was going to happen, and it was very hands on. When we arrived at the facility, our tour guide began yelling at us, ‘Line up! Men on the right side and women on the left!’ We were treated as if we were slaves. The feelings of hopelessness and uncertainty that overtook me was sobering. Even as a simulation that I knew was staged, it still resonated deeply with me. I began to empathize and sympathize, and I became pensive when I thought of how much harsher this was for my ancestors. The spontaneity of this experience took me to a place mentally that I greatly appreciated. Besides not being dressed as such, I did feel, slightly, the mental state of a slave. The experience gave me all I was hoping for and more”.
The fight for equality is something Jeremy plans to continue to champion on the SLU campus. Jeremy will serve as the President of the African American Society at SLU for the 2017/2018 school year. He plans “to be an activist while learning about others and their struggles”.
When asked what he wished people knew about The BackStoppers, Jeremy told us, “This organization has been very key in my life. From the fall of my father, you guys stepped in and made sure that my mother, my siblings, and I were well taken care of. I cannot thank you enough for your recognition of us and my father. This organization thrives on donations from individuals who care and who understand. I appreciate that my dad’s legacy lives on considering everything that BackStoppers does. He will truly never be forgotten, and I will do everything I can to make sure that I do my part in The BackStoppers organization”.
We would like to greatly thank Jeremy for sharing his experiences with us! Good luck with all your future endeavors. We are so proud of all you have accomplished and look forward to all your future holds.
The BackStoppers Education Fund ensures that children of fallen first responders will have access to financial resources to pursue educational opportunities, making experiences such as Jeremy Branson’s at St. Louis University possible. We have made a commitment on behalf of the entire community to provide for the future security and education of the families we serve.
Ralph Tatoian, Jr. has started his journey of service by recently graduating Basic Training at, “Sand Hill” Fort Benning, Georgia. He is continuing to display the bravery and courage shown by his father, Trooper Ralph Tatoian of Missouri State Highway Patrol Troop C, EOW 4/20/2005. A life of serving and protecting this community and the nation is a legacy that Ralph has decided to carry on.
Through the incredible challenges of Basic Training, Ralph has been able to successfully complete this chapter of his military career. Graduating at Fort Benning with the Alpha Company 2nd Battalion 3rd Infantry Regiment, Ralph reflects on the last few months and graduating, “It was probably the proudest I have been in my life. After Basic Training, there is a large mixture of pride in what you accomplished mixed with relief that you don’t have to be there anymore.”
Currently, Ralph is advancing in his career at Fort Meyer in Arlington, Virginia where he is continuing his job training as a U.S. Army Infantryman in the Hotel Company, 1st Battalion 3rd Infantry Regiment, “The Old Guard”. This new chapter has proven to bring new trials and emotions. As Ralph says, “It’s a mixture of feelings. Every morning it’s a struggle to drag myself out of bed early, but when I go out and help render final respects to those we bury, or when I’m out training as an infantryman, I feel very proud to know I get to put on my uniform and go out and do my job like my father did as a Trooper”.
The future holds promise for Ralph. When his initial contract is complete, he plans on coming back to Missouri to re-enlist in the Missouri National Guard. From one generation to the next, he also has a dream of pursuing a career in law enforcement. Along with his military and law enforcement career plans, Ralph also displays an interest in music. Leading a legacy of honor and strength has been demonstrated by Ralph, and his commitment to his country and community is evident.
Remembering the time in Ralph’s life when his father was killed in the line of duty, he recalls The BackStoppers being there for him and his family. “To me, BackStoppers is probably the most comforting thing to a family after they have lost a loved one, obviously financially but more so in the support you get. Lots of people will give you very sincere sympathy when tragedy strikes, but eventually they have to return to their everyday lives. The BackStoppers is always there supporting you and, when you may feel doubt about it, showing you that people really care about the sacrifice your loved one made.”
The BackStoppers helps children of fallen heroes, like Ralph, achieve their goals and dreams by providing financial assistance and support. Speaking about how we help, Ralph said, “I’m just so appreciative of what you all do and that The BackStoppers has helped so many families in so many ways. I can’t imagine how hard it would be for many families of survivors without the support that The BackStoppers gives”.Read More
The BackStoppers is now assisting the family of Captain John Kemper of the St. Louis Fire Department who died in the line of duty on July 12, 2017 as a result of injuries sustained battling a structural fire on July 5, 2017.
Capt. Kemper, who was 59-years old, was a 24-year veteran of the St. Louis Fire Department, serving as captain for nearly 10 years. He leaves behind his wife and adult daughter. Our thoughts and prayers are with the family, friends, and fellow firefighters and co-workers.
Fire Captain John Kemper
St. Louis Fire Department
With the addition of the family of Capt. John Kemper, we are now assisting 82 families with 66 dependent children and have assisted 161 families since 1959.
The BackStoppers’ assistance is immediate and ongoing. Following the death of a firefighter, his or her family receives a check for $5,000 to be used in whatever way they need.
Within a few weeks, our representatives meet with the surviving spouse to identify the family’s other financial obligations, eliminate the family’s debt, and provide ongoing support for education and other extraordinary expenses.
We recognize the tremendous sacrifices that public servants make every day when they go to work. We understand the burdens placed on surviving spouses and children when tragedies occur. We believe our community has an obligation to care for the loved ones of those who have protected us. We accept the responsibility to make that happen. Join us in our cause. Help us provide life-long support for families of fallen heroes by donating or joining online or by mail to the address below.
The BackStoppers, Inc.
PO Box 795168
Saint Louis, MO 63179-0700
Faces of The BackStoppers is a moving new video showcasing the families we assist and how your support has impacted their lives. Help us raise awareness of the need to support the families of fallen heroes by sharing the video today.
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Joe Strehl, son of fallen hero Det. Stephen Strehl EOW 11/19/93, graduated from the St. Louis County Police Academy last night. Congratulations, Joe! We’re honored to have been a part of your journey to becoming an officer with the St. Louis County Police Department. You have accomplished a great deal, and will be a fantastic officer. Thank you for giving back to The BackStoppers and allowing us to share your successes. We wish you the very best of luck in your new career!
The second issue of The BackStoppers Newsletter has mailed! Read about three families who’ve benefited from The BackStoppers’ assistance, a local firefighter who’s giving back and going pro, and more in Volume 1, Issue 2.
We wish to thank Jerry Kiske, Jr and Mulligan Printing, Firefighter Dave Marlo and the Professional Firefighters of Eastern Missouri IAFF Local 2665 , Repco Solutions, and everyone who shared their story with us to make this issue possible.
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The 5th Annual Bulltown Run for BackStoppers raised $5,000 in it’s biggest year yet! This year’s event was held in honor of Paramedic Jonathan Noce, EOW 5/25/2016, whose family The BackStoppers has begun assisting. Running and walking in his memory were participants aged 8 to 84, including Jonathan Noce’s family.
The run, organized by great BackStoppers supporters BackStoppers of Jefferson County, included two fun new elements this year: the Bulltown bull mascot and a first responder wave. The Arnold-Imperial Leader included the Bulltown Run for BackStoppers in its most recent publication. See the full story below.
Thank you to everyone who organizes the Annual Bulltown Run and volunteers their time each year. Thank you to everyone runner, walker, and first responder wave participant for being a part of this event. Congratulations on your biggest year, and thank you for supporting our mission!Read More
The BackStoppers is now assisting the family of Paramedic Jonathan Noce of the Joachim-Plattin Ambulance District who died in the line of duty on May 25, 2016.
Paramedic Noce was serving with both the Joachim-Plattin Ambulance District and Osage County Ambulance District. He is survived by his wife and two daughters.
Our thoughts and prayers are with Paramedic Jonathan Noce’s family, friends, and co-workers.
Paramedic Jonathan Noce
Joachim-Plattin Ambulance District
With the addition of the family of Paramedic Jonathan Noce, we are now assisting 78 families with 65 dependent children and have assisted a total of 157 families since 1959.